Alcohol and drug abuse is the source of many problems for those who are engaged in addictive behaviours. One of the earliest casualties from substance abuse will be intimacy. It is very difficult for people to abuse mind-altering substances on a regular basis and maintain healthy relationships. As a person falls deeper and deeper into addiction, it will completely take over their life and there will be little room for anyone else. As people become more disconnected from their true feelings and needs, due to suppression by substances, they become less able to communicate them in their relationships, which in turn become more superficial and less gratifying.
You probably know this cycle well. You promise yourself that you are going to stop. You do well for a few days, a month or even longer then for some reason, you find yourself back in the pub, calling your dealer or getting a bottle of wine on the way home from work. The next morning, after a night of excess, you wake up to those excruciating feelings of shame, anxiety, self-loathing and remorse as you try to remember what you did and said or maybe you are acutely aware of what you did and are trying to work out how to execute damage control. Again you swear that this is it, you are definitely never going to drink or use again. Until the next time.